• Helene Palmer

How to…Know when it is time to quit your job

Updated: Sep 2, 2019

From an early age I knew that I wanted to work in the charity sector. I wanted to make a difference. I wanted to change lives.

Life took me in various directions, with plenty of twists and turns. I worked across sectors and volunteered for various charities but it wasn’t until 2011 that I got my “dream job” in one of the UKs biggest disability charities. Roundabout the same time I was diagnosed with Bipolar II. Needless to say, it was a huge turning point in my life.

I stayed in that job for eight years. The stability, and my success in that role, played a huge part in my mental health recovery. Whilst I was there I met and married my husband; I adopted two dogs and one cat; and I bought my first house. In between all of that, I celebrated marriages and births, and I mourned the loss of people I cared about. I made new friends, and I lost old friends. I went on some of the best holidays of my life, and I travelled to places I had dreamed about. I started my first website. I interviewed people I admired, and watched them grow into published authors. I opened up about my mental health in the hope of helping others. I made some of the best, and some of the worst, memories. I failed at a lot of things, and I succeeded in ways I never expected. I turned 40.

I would be lying if I said that I loved every second of that job however, right up to the seventh year I knew I was right where I should be, and I was happy. I was empowered. I felt valued. I learnt so much and developed both professionally and personally during that period. I made friends for life and I became who I am today.

2018 was a particularly hard year which resulted in me going to counselling. I thought I was there for things that had happened in my personal life however, as it turned out, all I ended up speaking about was work. By Session Five I had made the decision that it was time to leave my job, and the organisation I had once loved so much.

I realised quite quickly that I was actually quite unhappy. I was too emotionally invested in work. My resilience was not what it once was. I no longer felt valued. The environment was not right for me. Day to day I was bored and I was in desperate need of a new challenge.

Life changes. Circumstances change. We change. Things that we once felt passionate about can change. Realising that is hard. It can be incredibly tough to break away from the familiarity and safety in what we know.

I now have a new job. I am happy. I look forward to going to work. I feel valued and challenged.

I have also set up my coaching business. I feel passionately about helping people find happiness in what they do.

I love what I do and I am excited about future possibilities.

In the last six months I have learnt that it is okay to admit when it is time to leave a job. You are stronger than you think and out there is the right role for you at this point in time. Starting anew isn’t a bad thing and can be best for not only you but, also those close to you.

It is daunting if you are considering moving jobs but it is worse to stay in a job that you are not happy in. Admitting that is the first step to moving on.

The best advice I can give you is:

  • Think about what motivates you and puts fire in your belly

  • Be realistic about your strengths and weaknesses

  • Reflect upon the knowledge, skills and experience that you have gained over time

  • Be open to new things

  • Decide upon the type of company you want to work for, in terms of culture and leadership

  • If you want to set up your own business think carefully about whether you are in a position to do that full time

  • Dream big but with your feet on the floor

  • Contact agencies

  • Search job boards

  • Attend interviews for roles you actually want

  • Do not compromise on the type of role you want or the kind of company you want to join

  • Do not under sell yourself

Go for it! You CAN make that change. I believe in you. Believe in yourself.

To claim your FREE guide Six Steps to Creating a Career You Love click here.

For further advice or for an informal chat please email: info@helenepalmercoaching.com

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